This post goes out to all of those couples that are in a long-term relationship, or even considering a long-term relationship.
In the Beginning – Puppy Love
Man! Remember how you felt at the beginning of your relationship when you first started dating? You were totally connected, craving to learn more about your partner and bonding over the new things and new places you were experiencing together. You tended to forget the rest of the world when you were together, like it was just the two of you and intimacy was just a natural outcome of the closeness you felt. Man! Wasn’t that great? Do you still feel like that now? No? Or maybe sometimes, but feel like it’s slipping? So, what happened?
The Roommate Syndrome
If you’re like the majority of the rest of the couples, you simply got caught up. Caught up in the daily routines of life; work, kids, soccer practice, chores, errands and projects and you honestly can’t even remember how either of you had the time or energy to go on dates back then. I call it the “busyness trap.” One of my clients said that after 17 years of marriage, he feels like he and his partner are more like roommates than lovers. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
If someone told you they had a magic potion that could give you at least a version of those initial feelings back again, how much would you pay for it? $100? $500? $1000?
Well, I have good news for you, my friend. It’s more like a formula than a portion, but it does exist and the best part is – it’s absolutely free!
The Magic Formula
A report from the University of Virginia’s National Marriage Project called “The Date Night Opportunity” confirms that consistent dating along with regular “couple time” is key to a successful relationship. Their use of “couple time” is further defined as “spending time in an activity alone with each other, talking or sharing an activity.” They say that dating improves communication, a sense of novelty, a feeling of eros, commitment and even helps reduce stress.
Their study has compelling statistics, such as couples “who engaged in couple time with their mates at least once a week were approximately 3.5 times more likely to report being “very happy” in their marriages. It’s a great report and if you’re interested in reading the whole report (it’s not that long) I’ve linked it to the bottom of this article for your reading pleasure.
How Do You Start? – Take Immediate Action!
Tony Robbins is famous for helping people make positive and lasting changes in their lives. His advice to increase the odds of implementing a change that will really stick, is to truly commit to doing it and then take an immediate action towards the change.
One action you can take right now is to make a Date-a-Month Love Calendar, selecting 12 Dates to take your Love on over the next year. This is a great tool and visual reminder that will give you both something to look forward to each month. The beautiful date images are taken by professional photographers so they will look great on your fridge or wherever is central in your life so you both can keep your relationship front of mind and keep the priority around the two of you.
It will also give you a great calendar to plan spending quality “couple time” together on a weekly, if not daily basis. Creative Commitments also offers Love Journals starting at $11.99 so you can capture the magic moments of your dates and have a keepsake for years to come!
Save the Date!
Use your Date-a-Month Love Calendar to Save the Date each month and keep the romance alive in your relationship! Help us Save the Date and keep romance alive everywhere by referring your friends on Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram and Twitter, etc., using the links at the bottom of the page! We’ll email you a coupon for 10% off your next order if they tell us your name when they check out!
Join our campaign to Save the Date and help keep romance alive for couples everywhere!
Here’s the link to that report I promised you:
Give Us Your Thoughts!
We at Creative Commitments are dedicated to helping you make memorable moments together with the one you love. Please leave a comment below as we’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject!